BIBLICAL POINT OF REFERENCE:
“For God did not call us to impurity but to holiness."
~1 Thessalonians 4:7
We hear it. See it. Know it.
We’re entranced by it. Tempted by it. We lust after it.
We think we know what it means, but really, we have no idea what something like that entails until we have experienced it as a gift from God.
And until then, we want it. We crave it. We strive for it.
In today’s world, it’s not uncommon to jump the boat and just do it.
Did you see that coming? I certainly didn’t when I sat down to write my blog post for this week, but God has been tugging at my heart for the last week or so, and I felt a need to get my thoughts out there.
One thought is how obvious sex is in today’s society. I can’t tell you how many people assume (without question or judgement) that I have some kind of “sex life.“ In fact, I think people get weirded out when they find out that I don’t have one. It’s so natural today to believe that everyone has sex that it’s not even a little sacred anymore.
How sad. How incredibly sad. How can such a gift be taken for granted?
Before I say anything else, let me just tell you that I understand. I understand the want and the desire and how difficult it is to say no to sex. It’s so common, and those feelings are so natural that I don’t blame people for struggling with it. What isn’t cool is the constant talk and influence from others that say it’s totally fine to have sex whenever and wherever. It’s as if sex shouldn’t mean as much as it really does. My boyfriend, Thomas, and I have often discussed how hard it is to be around people who pressure us to have premarital sex. I’d even venture to say that sometimes we question whether they’re right, and we think about how much easier it would be if we took their advice.
But then we’d be taking away each other’s holiness. If we caved in to societal standards, we’d be losing something that is only meant to be given within the sacrament of marriage. We’d be losing a piece of ourselves at the wrong time, and knowing that would make it unbearable to live with.
I grew up with the belief that sex is beautiful. It’s meant not only for procreation, but for bringing a husband and wife together intimately with God. That’s how God made us, and that’s what He intended for sex.
Don’t believe me? Go ahead and check out this link. The Catechism of the Catholic Church doesn’t lie. It talks about the integrity of both man and woman, and how it is maintained through chastity of heart, mind, body, and soul. In marriage and outside of marriage. Sex isn’t just a part of that; sex (when it happens as God intended) allows the union of two chaste people, man and woman, living their lives for God. This kind of intimacy takes patience, understanding, forgiveness, and most importantly, love.
Thomas plays a key role in my holiness, just as I play a key role in his holiness. Together, we continually make the decision to choose God over our sexual wants. We aren’t perfect, and we make mistakes, but we know that our relationship with each other and with God will be holier when we trust in His plans and His Promise.
Ladies, isn’t that the kind of man you want to end up with? I don’t mean to brag, but I’m downright blessed to be with someone who is saving sex for marriage. I’m blessed to be with a man who wants to preserve the gift that God gave us both. (I’ll happily gush more about Thomas—feel free to contact me!)
So let me set the record straight: Not everyone has sex before marriage, and not everyone believes it’s okay to have sex before marriage. I think it’s wrong. I think we don’t respect ourselves enough anymore, and I don’t think we have enough integrity. I think sex should be between a husband and wife only. I won’t budge on that belief.
Sex is a gift. Don’t open it before it’s time.
Your Laughing Sister,