Don't Settle
BIBLICAL POINT OF REFERENCE:
"Watch and pray that you may not undergo the test. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”
~Matthew 26:41
Over the weekend, I had the opportunity to visit some graduation parties for some friends. I was happy to see some familiar faces again, and I even met some new people as well. As a friend and I were sitting at a table with his friends, one particular conversation that took place struck me as odd and slightly offensive: the guys were talking about how they are automatically interested in knowing a girl if she has "daddy problems". Their idea was that if a girl has "daddy problems", she will more likely want to be with them because she is vulnerable. It's basically an easy way to "get" a girl, so to speak. I wish I could say these guys were joking, but they seemed dead serious. Just the thought of men thinking and acting this way is sad, and I cannot even begin to express my deep concern for our men out there. While not all men are disrespectful towards women, many do seem to not know how to treat princesses of God. I blame a lot of this on society; men are taught via social media, movies, TV, magazines, and even books that all women want sex and to have fun. They are taught that women are not worth much more than a night spent with them. Don't get me wrong here: women are taught the same ideas about sexuality; nowadays, the only way to get a guy to like you is to sleep with him. But remember that sex does have a consequence. It's that empty space in your heart that you gave away to someone who won't protect it. When I thought about it, I realized that I wanted my first time to be with someone who is completely mine, and no one else’s: my future husband. The world may not see it this way, but I know for a fact that I am an all-or-nothing deal. If a guy only wants the sex part of me, than he is not worthy to be with me. The point I'm trying to make here is that we, as a collective society, no longer have standards for our men and women. We downgrade and settle for something or someone that won't last. And when we get hurt by the downgrading and the settling, we try and fill our hearts back up again (especially women) by repeating the process! It's a downward spiral, and I cannot tell you how many girls and even guys I know and have met who feel broken inside and only know of sad ways to try and fix it. We, as young Catholic women, know there is a truer purpose for us that God calls us to. Many people don't see it, just as many people do not see what men and women are really worth. I urge you, ladies, to set a high standard for men and be the daughters of our King that I know you all are. Don't downgrade and don't settle for someone who doesn't love God first and foremost. Your Laughing Sister, Callahan Check out the BEING GODLY WOMEN and LOVE quotes pages for more inspiration!
